Monday, June 29, 2015

Know When to Hit the Delete Button

Being a fan and a user of modern technology, my Dad has always had a certain attraction for tablets, smartphones, and computers of all sorts. What is interesting though, is that the first question my dad always asks when dealing with any new device is: “Where is the delete button?”

I always found that rather strange and off course, however, my dad always insist on learning how to delete software, e-mails, messages, applications, etc. It is like he has a passion for deleting things out of his devices. We have even created a family inside joke where each time my dad touches a new device we ask “Where is the delete button?”

At one point I couldn’t help but ask my dad why it was important for him to know how to delete things. My dad’s answer was: “Anything that is needless or useless only becomes an extra burden on the device, when more and more useless things accumulate, the device will slow down and eventually start malfunctioning”, then he added “Son, you need to do the same with life matters if you want to live happily”.

My dad’s words got engraved in my mind and for a long time I gave this some serious thinking; it is normally not easy for us to let go of things or people. We tend to hold on to memories of all sorts, dwell on annoying and negative matters and get emotionally attached places, belongings, and individuals, even if we know that this attachment is not a healthy one. Successful people know the trick to avoiding and getting read of such an overload of negative, useless factors, be it emotions, material things, or even people in our lives; they know when to press the Delete button.

 Below are what I call the I.F.D steps to identifying, filtering and deleting all the daily stress causers and negativity magnets that if undetected, will pile up in our subconscious and cause us to malfunction:

1.    Identify

Many times we feel annoyed, upset, or nervous but we can’t really put our fingers on the reason behind this feeling. All we know is that we are in a “Don’t touch” mode and are ready to backfire at anyone who talks to us.

It is extremely important that we isolate ourselves when such feelings are taking over and turn our identification meter on to verify the reason(s) behind this feeling. We can simply go over the events that happened with us for the day or earlier than that when needed and scan every moment until we identify the real reasons that caused us to feel this way.

2.    Filter

Now that you have put your fingers on a reason or a list of reasons that are causing the stress or the negative feeling, it is time to ask yourself and answer a set of questions that will help you filter and narrow down that list to the minimum that you need to focus on. I always find the following questions to be useful in guiding me to what I need to filter out:

·       Is this issue / person in the circle of control or no control?
·       Did I understand the issue / person correctly?
·       Is there anything that I can do now to change this situation?
·       Is this issue / person of any value or meaning to me?
·       Is this issue / person standing in the way of my growth and progress?

3.    Delete

Once you have answered the questions mentioned earlier you will be able to better decide what issues you can simply delete and not occupy yourself with.

My advice to you is not to sweat the small things. Life is wonderful and it gets even better when we know when to use the delete button.

Thank you dad for teaching me how and when to delete what I don’t need.



Wednesday, June 10, 2015

8 Ways to Unclog Your Brain

Our “modern” lifestyle of technology and state of the art communication tools and techniques comes with a hefty price that each one of us pays. Using the internet, cellphones, tablets, smart TVs, smart watches, etc. to get our day to day needs and businesses done has become an unquestionable part of the day to day life.

Recent studies show that the average person receives the data equivalent of 174 newspapers on daily basis. It is no wonder then that the majority of people suffer from data overload which leads to a syndrome that I like to call a Brain Clog.   A mental or brain clog can lead to very unhealthy outcomes that will reflect negatively on our lives. I would like to share with you 8 ways that can help you unclog your brain and reset it back to a fresh start.



1. Spend some time alone

Spending time alone can be of great health advantage when practiced moderately and appropriately. We all need a healthy dose of “me time” where we get to think clearly and away from any external distractions. Once we isolate all external data, take a few steps back and focus on the voice inside, we get to see the full picture in a clearer way.

          2.   Get on a speech fast

Yes, you read that right; a speech fast. All doctors recommend a food fast for a healthy body cleanse and a good detox process. What is interesting is that several studies in recent years have proven that staying silent for a period of time has beneficial effects on the human thinking ability and decision making process. Do not hesitate to do a speech fast for 24 hours and see how you will feel the day after.

    3.   Talk to yourself

No, talking to yourself is not a sign of insanity as many people may joke about it. When we speak our thoughts out loud we come to a better sense of the pattern of our thinking and a better understanding of our emotions. This might even – in many cases – help us find solutions for the different day to day challenges.

4.   Enjoy some silence

Silence reinstalls the state of balance in us, be it mentally, spiritually or physically. In addition, silence allows the different thoughts that are buried in the subconscious to surface and be released. With such a busy lifestyle we all need a moment of silence and peace to regroup and get back on track. Make a habit of setting a minimum of 10 – 15 minutes a day for a session of silence and peace and you will notice the difference for yourself.

5.   Rewind your day

After a long busy day it is very helpful to mentally go over the events of the day you just had and evaluate each part of it. Rewinding the day in our minds can also help us discover and / or remember certain details that we did not pay attention at the moment they happened.

6.   Perform a Mental Dump

This is one of my favorite and most helpful habits that I have developed along the years. With so much data input coming to us on constant basis, there are so many appointments, reminders, to do tasks, phone calls, choirs, etc. to remember on daily basis. Leaving the office with such amounts of data overload on your mind can result into a restless rest of the day.  Before you leave the office dump all of this data on a piece of paper in the form of organized points and leave your mind stress free for you will still keep track of all you needed to remember the day after. I do my mental dumps on daily basis to the extent where it has become a second nature for me to do them.

 7.   Take a mental break

Just like any other muscle or organ in our body, our brain needs rest as well. Daily short mental breaks can be of great benefits to the overall capacity and performance power of our brain. Find a few minutes every day we you simply sit by yourself and switch off. Try for a few minutes tp clear your thoughts and simply think of nothing. This can be practiced by imagining a cloudy sky clearing of clouds little by little until the sky becomes clear blue with bright sunshine. While practicing this short session of meditation, make sure that you take deep inhales and exhales.

  8.   Treat yourself

You have heard it said: “In life, you have to stop and smell the roses”, and I’m here to urge you to make a practice of it. Life is not all about e-mails, schedules, deadlines and other commitments. Treating yourself to a vacation or to something that you like or have been wanting, pays off. Our brains and bodies enjoy treats and reset themselves to fresh start after a good break or treat.


Saturday, May 23, 2015

Beat the BOT



In our days of quick everything, time has never been more precious and priceless. We work hard and push ourselves to the limit to always be on time not be behind. Meeting deadlines is one of the main reasons of pressure that we face on daily basis when trying to deliver any kind of work.
I am a firm believer that if you want to succeed at something , you should not just settle for average or have a “go with the flow” mentality. In order to really succeed you need to beat the Be On Time lifestyle and find ways of how to be ahead of time instead.  
Often times I hear people complain that they do not have enough time to get things done: I couldn’t disagree more. Below are a few tips that could save us a reasonable amount of time and hopefully help us be ahead of time instead of just on time.

·       Get Organized
It is estimated that the average human being spend the total of one year of his lifetime looking for lost possessions. Surprising, right?
Being an organized individual is a main factor in saving time as you will not need to waste that much time looking for lost belongings or misplaced items here and there.

·       Stay Focused
A large percentage of people have not trained themselves to stay focused on the task at hand. Losing focus is a definite time waster and much time can be gained by developing the habit of focus.

·       Time your tasks
Setting yourself a challenge to accomplish any given task in a reasonable amount of time can create pressure; a well needed pressure indeed. A moderate amount of healthy pressure can get us to finish any task or job in a shorter time than we would while doing the same task in a deadline free condition. Get into the habit of setting deadlines for any task or project that you work on in order to manage and perhaps even save time.

·       Plan Ahead
Planning any project or task ahead of time can be a huge time saver when done properly. A plan is your best map to the destination using the shortest, yet most effective route. People who work without planning end up wasting a considerable amount of time on things that could have been avoided. Successful leaders and individuals will never go without a plan.

·       Hang out with the right crowd
As harsh as it may seem, letting go of useless company is also a time saver. Emotions aside, try to take a look at your friends and run them through a filter; how many of them actually share same interests as you do? How many of them spend most of their time whining and complaining about how unfair life is and about all the negative things that happen to them? And how many of them actually speak positivity into your life, motivate you and are always there whenever you need them? Making a choice when it comes to the people you spend time with makes a lot of difference in the quality of your life.

·       Do not waste time trying to make everyone happy
Making everyone around us happy can be a real challenge, however, the good news is: you don’t really have to worry about making everyone happy. The truth is: if anyone is not happy with you, it is their problem not yours, so stop wasting time trying to figure out how to make everyone happy and focus on what makes you happy.



Monday, May 11, 2015

A Rule of Growth.....No Pain...No Gain

    Being a former amateur body builder and still a big fan and practitioner of the sport, I am sure that almost all those who are into the world of body building take the former pro-bodybuilder Arnold Schwarzenneger as their idol. I can write pages upon pages from lessons that we can learn from the former Mr. Olympia, Hollywood Star, and former governor, however, I am writing this article because of a basic rule that Arnold set in order for anyone to have their muscles grow using effective exercise. It is the nature of the human muscle to feel exhaustion and pain after a few repetitions of weight lifting, Arnold rule says that the muscle grows when we still do a few more reps after feeling that discomfort, soreness and pain in the muscle.

The concept of how to get a human muscle to grow attracted my attention to a great extent. Giving this method some deep thought we will come to realize that this is a rule that applies not only to muscle growth, but to growth in different aspects of our lives. Oftentimes we complain about the weights in our lives, we seek to unload all the heavy weights and life troubles off our backs. Pain is usually a sign of discomfort and unrest. However, through it all there is always a light at the end of the tunnel should we choose to change our perspective of things; at the end of the day, our life is the consequence of the choices we make and we always have a choice.

Allow me to challenge you today for a mental and spiritual workout; are you going to give up, put the weights down and walk away, or are you going to push a few more reps through the pain and the heavy weights to grow more and more? The same thing that we normally try to avoid and runaway from can be the exact same reason behind our gains and growth.      

May your life workouts be full of growth

Friday, April 10, 2015

Ask and It Will Be Given To You




In recent years the topic of the law of attraction (you attract what you think about) has become a major topic of interest by many people. Books were published, documentaries were filmed, and different testimonials from all around the world started going viral all over the internet.


 I am a firm believer of the power of belief and the law of attraction. The concept is very simple, yet very powerful if implemented correctly; you receive what you believe. Most people however, wonder whether this is really true and if it really works. More importantly, if it is really works then how come most people do not get what they want in life?

The answer is all people want things in life but very few are those who believe they will get them. What matters most is not what you want, what really matters is whether you believe you will receive it or not. The magic of the power of belief and the power of attraction is not a new born concept of this century; it has been there since the creation of the human race. We can trace this back to thousands of years ago. Jesus Christ said: “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. Jesus has communicated this great secret with us thousands of years ago but very few really believed and understood.

The first thing to ask yourself when you want something is: how bad do I really want this? The intensity of the desire generated once you answer this question will be your guide and indicator to how much you should see what you want happening for you. The steps to having anything you want can be summarized in four easy stages:

 1.   Initiate the thought of what you desire
Everything in this life becomes with a thought. The thought becomes a dream, a desire, which then and by time gets materialized and becomes a reality.

2.  Ask
Once you have decided what it is that you desire, then all you have to do is ask. Ask who? , you may wonder. This is always a personal choice; some people ask the universe, others ask the higher power, and most would ask the creator…God. What matters most is that you believe in a higher power. Everything in existence – including our thoughts - is made of energy and energy attracts the like, so be careful what you think of for you get what you ask for.

3.  Visualize
Visualization is an extremely important aspect of receiving what you want. Most people think that meditation and visualization is a complicated process that only a few can master; I am here today to tell you that this is far from the truth. All you need is 5 minutes a day to sit alone, close your eyes and imagine everything you asked for happening to you, feel it, live it, and see it as if it is really happening to you. At the end of your 5 minutes visualization, thank for what you will receive and repeat the phrase: “I want… and it is done. Thank you”.

 4.  Wait
Once you have asked and believed that it will happen, all you have to do is wait and keep believing and asking. No matter how you really wait for, be sure that it will happen to you. The power of belief works every single time.


Saturday, November 23, 2013

The Storm



A couple of days ago and out of nowhere a very violent storm hit the city I live in – the city of Ruwais in Abu Dhabi, UAE. It was a feeling like I've never had before. There I was past midnight sitting on my bed watching the water leaking from everywhere into the house and praying that none of my windows get cracked or smashed by the flying debris. I tried my very best to control the water leakage by laying most of my towels behind the door and the windows, however, just to make things more interesting the whole city lost power and there was nothing else that anyone could do but wait for the storm to pass.

The aftermath experienced the next day was beyond description but there was no time to just stand and look at the damage, something had to be done to bring life back to normal. For me it was time to drain the water out of the house, get rid of all damaged items, and restore the place to its normal condition; it was time for a clean out. What amazed me is that I found so many items that I didn't need and had totally forgotten about. At the end of the day and after several hours of draining and cleaning the house actually looked even better than it did before the storm. Then it dawned on me; although I had a scary night during the storm, this storm actually did me good. It gave me the chance to scan through most of my belongings and re-evaluate what I needed and what I could get rid of to make more space for other items, and most importantly the house is now cleaner and better equipped for any future storm since I had my brother install a foam water-blocker by the entrance to stop any possible leakage in the future.

This storm experience is not far from storms that we experience in our lives; often times we go through periods of struggle, difficulties, challenges and hardships. My question to you today is: how do you react to your storms? Do you let them make you or break you?  A common mistake that people may do is to deny the fact that there are certain storms that we just can’t fight; all we can do is wait for that storm to pass and then learn from the experience to be better equipped for the next one.

One remarkable thing that one could see during the storm two nights ago is that the palm trees as big and majestic as they are, bent with the wend until they almost touched the ground but when the wend died the went right up standing tall exactly as they were before the storm. For a moment during the storm you would think they are about to break, yet they knew exactly when to bend and when to stand up again.
My friends, there is no shame in letting a storm bend us as long as we don’t break and stand right up once the storm passes for we may not beat the storm but each storm will sure deepen our roots in the ground exactly as it does to a palm tree.

I would like to leave you all with a link to one of my favorite compositions by the one and only...YANNI. This one is called....The Storm:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-ICUEVGdiXM

Monday, August 19, 2013

Decision Making: What you need to know when making decisions as a leadr.

     One of the most important yet critical aspects of leadership is decision making. All leaders have to make decisions on regular basis. Their decisions not only reflect on them, but on the team as a whole. Scientists have spent decades trying to understand the key to decision making through studying the human brain and human behavior in the hope of finding more answers to the map that will unveil the secret behind why people take the decisions they take and what affects that process.
     Almost everything that we do in our life starts by making a decision; what time to wake up, what to wear, what to eat, etc. However, when making decisions on a managerial level or from a leading position, the whole concept takes a new perspective; such decisions may affect others from a small group of people to an entire nation. The human history is full of ups and downs, successes and failures, all of which were the results of either good or bad decisions. Successful leaders are those who learn to master the art of decision making and learn from their past decisions and the decisions of others.
     In this article I will discuss different elements and aspects that play a role in the process of decision making. I will also show that anyone can enhance the quality of the decisions they make by paying attention to all the different factors that may affect our decisions. Please bare with me the length of this article; the area of decision making is of great importance and that's why I would like to focus on certain aspects related to it.


The Mind at Work


     The main engine behind making any decision is our mind. It is very important here to differentiate between the brain and the mind. To simplify this difference, let us consider how any computer works; the physical parts inside the computer’s case (such as the mother board, the CPU, and all the other chips and circuits) would be the brain, however, the mind would be the dynamic visual result we see on the screen. 
     In his works, Sigmund Freud divided the mind into layers: the Conscious Mind (where we access information and memories at a level of awareness), and the Unconscious Mind (which contains suppressed information and memories that are inaccessible at the level of awareness and may or may not be recalled in certain cases). Contrary to what most people may believe, the conscious mind is not the only active part of the mind behind decision making; researchers have discovered that many of the decisions that we make are based on past experiences that have been suppressed in the unconscious mind and may or may not be available for recall under normal circumstances. Our subconscious mind works around the clock, however, it reveals itself to us when we least expect it; many of our most creative ideas and solutions to problems we have been facing come to us during times when our attention and awareness are not focused on that particular issue or problem. Our unconscious mind, or what professor of leadership studies - John Adair refers to as the “Depth Mind” works in mysterious yet effective ways. When it comes to decision making, the unconscious mind works as a separate entity that studies situations and suggests solutions and ideas based on past or acquired experiences. In his book Decision Making and Problem Solving Strategies, John Adair writes: “Many people are still not even aware that their depth minds can carry out important mental functions for them, such as synthesizing parts into new wholes or establishing new connections while they are engaged in other activities”. (Adair, 2010)
          Our modern life is full of information that comes our way every minute. The concept of information overload has become a normal part of our daily life. Our life has become based on TV, Cellular Phones, Wireless Media, Wireless Communication, and most importantly: the internet. While many people may look at all this luxurious technology and finding information in just a click as a good sign of development, there may be more effect to this overflow of information than just finding information in a few seconds or less; such large input of data may have an effect on our thinking ability in general and on our decision making patterns in particular. Looking back in time, we find that the amount of data and information that the average person received on daily basis is nothing but a fraction of the amount of data that the average person receives today.  An article under the title of: Welcome to the information age – 174 newspapers a day, that was published in the British Newspaper The Telegraph shows that recent studies found that the amount of information that an individual receives on daily basis has skyrocketed from the equivalent of forty 85-pages newspapers a day in 1986 to one hundred seventy four 85-pages newspaper a day in the year 2007. (Alleyne, 2011). This is the kind of information that I would like to refer to as raw information. Raw information is any information that hasn’t been filtered or tested for accuracy or clarity. When we are exposed to such a huge amount of unprocessed information, our subconscious automatically stores it and saves it for future reference. In most cases we are well unaware of the amount of data that has been stored in our deep subconscious. The human brain has a unique ability of recording images, information, and places that we see or visit. This varied data comes to the surface when our brain tries to solve a problem or make a decision. Considering the amount of information we receive on daily basis and the amount of data we store in our memories, the process of decision making may become harder and more distorted for if we do not pay attention to the thinking process and the information we depend on while making decisions, our decisions may end up being the wrong ones, and even disastrous ones in certain cases. Therefore, it is very important for us not to follow our impulse and to scan and filter the information we use while making decisions. By practice, we can train our minds to refine the selection process of any data or information that we may need to make decisions.

     One important factor that plays a role in the way anyone would make their decisions is the culture and environment that the person grew up in or is affected by. Each culture has its own set of beliefs, ideals, language(s), and certain ways of doing things. Studies of different cultures have shown that people from different parts of the world focus on different aspects of decision making. For example, European Americans tend to be influenced by the positive outcome of a decision, while Asians are normally more influenced by the negative consequences that may happen due to a certain decision. What is interesting about some findings is that ethnicity is not the only player in affecting the process of decision making; one other major player is the spoken language. A research commenced by the Hong Kong University of Science and Technology under the title of: Titled Effects of Cultural Salience on Goal Pursuits: Implications for Behavioral Decisions and Judgments, shows us that the language spoken has a clear effect on the process of decision making. As part of the research, bilingual and bicultural participants from Hong Kong took part of a study that had them communicate in both English and Chinese. The results of the study showed that when the participants communicated in Chinese they tended to engage in a more prevention focused behavior than when they communicated in English. The reason of such behavior is attributed to the fact that when communicating with a certain language, the expectations and perceptions of the norms and values of the culture associated with language are automatically activated. (Briley, 2007)

Sleep and Rest at Work


     Several studies on the relation between decision making and proper sleep have shown that the ability of decision making deteriorates when there is a lack of sleep. A new work that was performed by experts at the Harvard Medical School and the University of California in Berkeley (UCB) shows the effects on the human brain when lacking sleep. Dr. Mathew Walker who took part in running a number of experiments on the mental abilities of people who were asked to stay awake for a whole night explains that unlike the well rested brain, the sleep deprived brain swings to both extremes of the mood spectrum instead of finding the happy balanced spot. This shift between the two extremes leads into wrong decisions being made. (Vieru, 2011)
      For some people in certain professions – such as doctors or surgeons – such decisions could be fatal. Therefore, individuals with high-risk jobs and those with jobs that require frequent decision making should watch their sleep pattern and make sure that they get the right number of sleep hours in order for them to avoid making wrong decisions.

    

Hidden Traps at Work


     Just like anything else in life, our decision making ability improves by practice. The more good or bad decisions we make, the more experience we gain for the next time we are about to make a decision. However, regardless of how experienced we get in making decisions, we should be careful not to fall into the misleading pitfalls of thinking. In their article: The Hidden Traps in Decision Making, authors John S. Hammond, Ralph L. Kenney, and Howard Raiffa, identified six major traps that anyone can fall into while making decisions:
1.      The Anchoring Trap: this is the trap that we fall into when we let the opinions, thoughts, comments, or suggestions of other people affect our decisions. Often times we fall into this trap by not filtering all the input we receive from others around us. Many times we end up blocking our own thoughts and simply going by what others think or suggest.

2.      The Status Quo Trap: we normally tend to stick to what we usually have or are comfortable with rather than trying something new or going through a new experience. Staying within our comfort zone seems to be the dominant behavior for most people. People who fall into the status quo trap can easily base their decisions on what they are comfortable with and not open the doors for the opportunity to change or try different methods and approaches. The best way to avoid falling into this trap once we are aware of it is to examine whether we are making our decision because this is the right thing to do or because we are simply comfortable with it as is and do want change.


3.      The Sunk-Cost Trap: this is when we make choices to justify previous choices even when those choices are not valid any longer or were wrong. When taking the wrong decision, it is very important for us to have the ability to accept that fact and admit it in order not to fall into the sunk-coast trap by making new decisions that are based on the old wrong ones. This is especially more important on a managerial and leaders’ level than it is on a personal level, since the decisions of managers affect the team as a whole and not just one person. For example, when hiring the wrong employee, many managers will be too proud to admit that they have done the mistake of hiring the wrong person; instead, they invest time and money on that employee and try to convince everyone that this person just needs some time to learn although deep inside they know the truth that they have taken the wrong decision when they hired that person.
4.      The Confirming Evidence Trap: people fall into this trap when giving more weight to any information that support their decision and less weight to contradicting or conflicting information. What simply happens here is that we normally know on a subconscious level which decision we want to take although we may not necessarily know why. We then tend to accept any information or arguments that support our decision and ignore or dismiss any information that clashes with it in spite of the fact that that information could be of a great value and may help stop us from taking the wrong decision.

5.      The Framing Trap: we make our decisions based on facts that we have or facts that we receive. There is more than one way of delivering these facts or information to the decision maker; facts can be framed to sound either positive or negative. We can react to the same piece of information in different ways based on how we receive it. Since people are normally more comfortable with the status quo of any situation, they tend to receive information exactly the way it has been framed and make decisions based on that. A good example that can be used is the way people reacted to the new car insurance policy that was announce in both neighboring states New Jersey and Pennsylvania. Both states have decided to cut down on car insurance costs by giving drivers the option of lowering their premiums by accepting the limited right to sue. Although both states wanted to apply the same law, they both framed it differently; in Pennsylvania, the law stated that drivers had the full right to sue unless they stated otherwise, while in New Jersey the law stated that drivers automatically had the limited right to sue unless they specified otherwise. The result was that 80% of the drivers in New Jersey chose the limited right to sue, while only 25% of the drivers in Pennsylvania chose the limited right to sue option simply because of the way the law was framed in each state. The large difference in the number of people who signed up for the limited right option resulted in the failure of the state of Pennsylvania to gain approximately over $200 million in expected insurance and litigation savings.      

6.      The Estimating and Forecasting Trap: We make different judgments and estimates about different variables in our daily life. The repetition of these judgments and variables calibrates our brains into a refined accuracy in making such calls. However, when making estimates or forecasts about uncertain events (e.g.: the stock market precise fluctuations, the price of oil falling or raising for a certain amount, etc.) chances are that unless we have a large amount of data and we have been studying the patterns of change for the item we are estimating or forecasting to the extent where we have become experts in the field, our estimate or forecast will be wrong.  

All of the traps mentioned above are traps that can affect the way we make decisions when we are faced with uncertainty, however there also a few more traps that can affect our ability to assess probabilities while making decisions based on forecasting. Some of these most common traps are: The overconfidence trap (being over confident about the accuracy of our knowledge and information without checking their validity in the given situation), the prudence trap (a trap that forecasters fall into while being overcautious when making decisions by adjusting their estimates just to be on the safe side), and the recallability trap (a trap that we fall into when our ability to estimate is affected by past dramatic or traumatic incidents that may have seen or witnessed ourselves).  (Hammond, Kenney, & Raiffa, 1998)


Attitude at Work


     A leaders’ attitude plays a major role in the quality and efficiency of the decision made; the need of making decisions arises when we are faced with a problem, a challenge, or uncertainty about any given situation. Positive leaders see every problem as an opportunity and hence their decisions flow from a positive mindset of seeking improvement, on the other hand, negative leaders see every problem as a difficulty, and therefore, the decisions they make will be based on a negative mindset and most probably be the wrong ones. 
     Our attitude is a personal choice that we control – we carry our own weather. The quality of any decision that we make depends on the kind of attitude that we had while making that decision. Leaders who are considered to be good decision makers are normally good problem solvers. Dealing with problems with the right attitude and finding the right solutions for them leads into a better decision making ability and fine tunes the judgment of any given situation. In addition, it is very important for us to accept the situation or problem that we are making a decision about rather than denying it or trying to find ways to make decisions that will hide or cover for the truth; successful leaders accept the truth, face problems as they are and take their decisions accordingly. In his book The 21 Indispensable Qualities of A Leader, leadership expert and author John Maxwell says: “People respond to problems in these ways: they refuse to accept them, they accept them and then put up with them; or they accept them and try to make things better. Leaders must always do the better”. (Maxwell, 1999)

Decision Making: A Skill to Be Acquired


     In conclusion, the process of decision making is a skill to be acquired through practice and full awareness of the available data and facts that are available to us. Acceptance and openness are two key elements that any good decision maker and good leader should practice. Where we are and how we are today are results of our past decisions; our decisions today can affect us and those that work with us for the longer periods of time to come. I believe that the best way to confirm that we are making the right decisions is to look outside the box and view the problem that we have at hand as if it was somebody else’s, would we still make the same decision then?